Friends

After thinking about it for quite some time, I've come to ask myself, why do we have friends? Do we NEED them or is it just a WANT? So many things have been running through my mind about this topic lately and I just can't help but wonder, "why"?

I'm sure we all get lonely and all want someone there for us and/or with us that's why we choose to have friends, but, isn't that what family's for? Shouldn't our families be enough for us? Why do we look for company from mere "strangers”?

As the years have passed, I’ve realized that what people have been telling me is true. As you grow older, your circle of friends does shrink. It’s a sad thing but at the same time, it’s reality. You come to realize who you can and cannot trust, who you can and cannot confide in, who you can and cannot tell your secrets to, and who you should and should not be around.

I think everyone goes through that phase of trying to find out who you are and what you want in life. I feel like the people around you have an influence on the person you become.

To be honest, I was one of those people that always wanted a lot of friends so I’d always be very talkative and try to be friends with everyone that I met. But I’ve come to the realization that you can’t be friends with everyone you meet and not everyone’s going to get along with you. Having a relationship with a friend is like being in a relationship with your significant other. There has to be communication and trust, “loyalty” and you have to make time for one another. Knowing this, I come back to the question of why. Why do we want friends if it’s going to take up so much time, energy, and effort? Why do we want friends when it may only impose unnecessary drama in our lives?

I’m still clueless and I have not found an answer yet, but, I’m sure there are many answers out there. Not saying that I don’t have any friends because I do, but, now that I have a better understanding of people and between fake and real friends, I would rather have just 2 or 3 close friends than to have 100 fake ones. I’m not saying it’s impossible to have 100 real friends, I just personally think that it’s a little difficult to do so.

 I'm glad that I've found my friends who I can rely on no matter what. They have been there for me through thick and thin and I know that they will never leave my side and they will always be there for me. These girls are like my sisters and I know, I wouldn't be the person I am today without them. They've molded me into a strong independent person and I love them to death. They influence me in a POSITIVE way and we each have something unique to offer each other, just like when you're in a relationship. So why do we want friends? I dont know... But, I'm glad and I'm blessed that I have them in my life. <3