Being Hurt is OK!!! (btw, sorry for my grammatical mistakes, I'm on my phone and I cant capitalize my letters or put in apostrophes for some reason)

theres not one person that i know of who wants to be, feel, or experience that feeling of being hurt. today my friend anna and i had a conversation about relationships and how we cope with our feelings when we break up with someone or when someone breaks up with us because she had recently gotten out of a relationship and was in need of a friend. she had told me that before she had talked to me, she had talked to one of her guy friends and he had gotten hurt before and had cried for a whole day but the next day had gotten over everything like it was nothing. she had told me that he was telling her to do the same. my advice to her was that its ok to be hurting... being hurt can only make you stronger as an individual... i had also told her that i completely understand where her friend is coming from as well... why do you want to sulk and be sad? whats the point of that? there isnt a point really. laying down on your bed, crying, isnt going to fix anything or make anything better. if anything, that just makes it worse. when i said its ok to hurt i dont mean lock yourself in your room and cry in the dark. i meant, learn from it, grow from it, incorporate it into your life in a positive matter. its not that we want to be hurt. im pretty sure if we had the powers or the abilities to not feel hurt, we would take up that chance but life isnt like that. life comes with curveballs and we can only look at things in a positive perspective no matter how negative it may seem. if someone dumps you, dont look at it as a negative thing. im sure that youve gained something from that relationship and im sure that there were nice memories there as well. yes, its hard to move on. im not saying its easy... but, it doesnt have to be as difficult as we imagine it to be. be thankful that that person was a part of your life for that period of your life and slowly move on. like i said, it may be hard, but, its doable... what people dont realize is, we dont need a special someone to make us happy... we determine our own happiness. i know that everyone has their own ways of coping with their feelings and emotions. but it wont get better if we always think so negatively. it may take a week, a month, a year, or even longer for you to heal from the pain, but, once you get past it, i guarentee that you will feel so much better about yourself and you will have become stronger as well. how will we know how to cope with being hurt if we dont go through it multiple times and learn? is feeling hurt a bad thing? yes and no. if youre feeling hurt right now for whatever reason, i just want you to know that you will be ok... it will take time but, you will get through it. you always have your friends and family to turn to as well. dont ever feel like you have to go through anything alone. dont ever feel like you have to cope with your feelings alone. like my previous blog about friends, my two best friends are always there for me and im always there for them as well. whenever one of us is hurting, all of us hurt because we care about eachother.  we help eachother get through our issues and our problems because we dont want one another to feel down or hurt. my life has become brighter and full of life thanks to those girls. so, like i said, you do have friends and family that you can turn to when youre feeling down, im sure theyre more than willing to lend a shoulder for you to cry on. dont think that if youre hurt, youre being emo... being hurt is a natural emotion that everyone faces. some take longer than others to heal, but theres nothing wrong with that. its just how you deal with it that matters. so, dont be afraid to be hurt. it will benefit your life in one way or another.